How long has it been since I've had a good childfree post in here? I think it's long overdue, and a lovely letter to the editor in The Chicago Tribune has got me seeing red. I don't like to copy and paste these things, but you can see it here.
Let's see, where should I start. Well, for one, I have never thought of being childfree as any sort of "movement." I don't want kids, therefore I'm not having them -- end of story.
Mr. Bologna then talks about how many childfree couples have vacation homes in Spain, sleep in all the time, and dine out constantly. Well, I hate to break it to him, but many childfree I know don't do any of these things. In fact, one of the reasons many people don't have kids is because they can't afford them. Also, I think I know a few parents who have traveled to Europe and other places. Does this make them self-absorbed, or do they get off the hook because they have kids?
Yes, I realize child-rearing is hard work. I know enough about myself to know I would not make a good parent for various reasons, therefore I have no kids. I agree with him about parents who see their kids as an accessory. Luckily, I know no parents like this and my friends and coworkers with kids are pretty responsible people.
Then he is also thankful because since we shallow self-absorbed vacationing types aren't having kids, then people like us (the ogres we are!) will die out. I guess that means that in another 50 years or so vacations will no longer exist. I don't know what the tourist industy will do.
Of course, that's one of the arguments we hear all the time, isn't it? "Thank God you aren't having kids so that there won't be any more like you and your kind will die out!" Well, duh -- where the hell do you think we came from? Our parents had us, they had children. Just because a person has one or more child does not mean every one of those kids will do the same. What, did we pop out of holes in the ground or something?
Look, if you want kids and don't abuse them -- great! I don't care if people are having kids as long as they aren't kicking me in restaurants. I don't hate kids, and love my friends' kids. So why do so many people treat us like we are some sort of horrible diseased minority that must be avoided at all costs?
That guy's letter was one of the more insulting diatribes I've read in a while, but certainly not the first and won't be the last. He writes as if he's so intelligent and so much better than those of us who don't want kids. I've never understsood why it's selfish to know yourself enough to not have children and go against society on almost a daily basis.
I need to start looking for that vacation home in Spain. I seem to have misplaced it.