Got a few minutes here, but gotta get to work soon. I came in early to get extra work done, not blog. :)
Anyway, I didn't realize until yesterday that it's ASSumed that if a person at work asks a person of the opposite sex to lunch, they must be having an affair -- or at least, the person who did the asking "wants" the other person, if you catch my drift.
Apparently, I'm a very immoral person who intends to take away husbands from their wives because I have lunch with male coworkers at times. Granted, most of the people where I currently work are female, but in other places I've gone to lunch with a male co-worker. It was just the two of us, nobody else -- the horror!
Look, if you don't feel comfortable with that situation, fine. I guess, then, you need to be sure that your spouse doesn't get a job where he/she may need to travel with members of the opposite sex or have lunch meetings with a member of the opposite sex with nobody else around. I can't imagine it going over well with a bossman if somebody says they can't do their job because they have to eat or travel alone with a person of the opposite sex.
Maybe I'm just different. You know, Tim has hardly been home except for weekends for the past few months, helping his mom recover from her knee replacement surgery. This may be a huge shock to some people, but I TRUST HIM! I don't sit around and stew, calling him every second to be sure that's where he is. Another shocker -- sometimes he even goes to a bar and there are women there and he (gulp) talks to them! WHATEVER WILL I DO? Of course, he tells me that some drunk bimbo made a pass at him and laughs about it.
I'm sure there are people who think that, by "allowing" him to do what he wants, that I'm opening him up to temptation and that he'll cheat on me. Well, could be, but that's not my style and I'm more apt to trust my own gut and instincts than someone who doesn't know me. I'm also more willing to trust TIM than someone who doesn't really know me. I sometimes wonder how people live if they are constantly on the lookout for somebody trying to "steal" their spouse? I couldn't live like that, always wondering, watching every move he makes and that others make around him. What's the point of being in a relationship where you can't trust the person?
If part of your relationship is that your spouse feels the same way as you and doesn't put himself into any sort of lunch/travel/whatever with the opposite sex, great. It means you are both on the same wavelength and have the same thoughts about issues that are important to you. You trust each other to act a certain way. Well, Tim and I trust each other to also act a certain way, too.
Then again, I'm not married so my opinion doesn't matter. We don't have that little piece of paper that says we're legally married, therefore there's absolutely no committment, so it's just ASSumed one of us will cheat anyway, right?